Jill Golick’s unbidden smile hides the weight of losing her son. She finds solace in the "shakhul," a Torah concept that gives voice to her endless grief.
The ex was ex for a good reason. Jealousy, envy, signs of regret, of something someone wishes to have or have had. To be able to eulogize, speaking the good, the bad, the ugly and glorious love is something to be earned. As is to be eulogized that way. BDE
I love this so much. We typically canonize our dead children. My own daughter was also a terrible teen. My God, some of the shit she pulled! Had she lived, she’d probably have been proud of that. I know she’d hate it if I only spoke about her goodness. I will miss her forever.
It’s only a few days ago that we met. What you say about your smile is true to my experience. In broader circles I sensed that smile indicates a woman who knows beyond doubt the depth of torment but does not sit in the mud of it. The spoken words at the funeral would have propelled me into the orbit of humanity who knows there is not limit to loss and grief. To bereave is an expression that is just plain piddling froth.
My sense is that this piece is an excerpt from the eulogy and I am planted in the last row of mourners. This tribute and proclamation of a sorrowful mother will forever hold a place in my heart in the cubbyhole reserved for the most precious of souls.
Thank you so very much for this electrifying tribute. It's heart-mangling and absolutely beautiful. His memory is a blessing for all of us.
The ex was ex for a good reason. Jealousy, envy, signs of regret, of something someone wishes to have or have had. To be able to eulogize, speaking the good, the bad, the ugly and glorious love is something to be earned. As is to be eulogized that way. BDE
I love this so much. We typically canonize our dead children. My own daughter was also a terrible teen. My God, some of the shit she pulled! Had she lived, she’d probably have been proud of that. I know she’d hate it if I only spoke about her goodness. I will miss her forever.
May his Soul rest in eternal peace. Amen. 🇮🇱
Thanks for this wonderful gem.
Jill, thank you so much for this piece. It's powerful. I will be passing it on to a friend who could benefit.
It’s only a few days ago that we met. What you say about your smile is true to my experience. In broader circles I sensed that smile indicates a woman who knows beyond doubt the depth of torment but does not sit in the mud of it. The spoken words at the funeral would have propelled me into the orbit of humanity who knows there is not limit to loss and grief. To bereave is an expression that is just plain piddling froth.
My sense is that this piece is an excerpt from the eulogy and I am planted in the last row of mourners. This tribute and proclamation of a sorrowful mother will forever hold a place in my heart in the cubbyhole reserved for the most precious of souls.
Oh!❤️🩹